{"id":314,"date":"2014-07-29T04:03:05","date_gmt":"2014-07-29T04:03:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.com\/articles\/?p=314"},"modified":"2014-07-29T05:47:01","modified_gmt":"2014-07-29T05:47:01","slug":"relationships-and-stress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.eu\/articles\/relationships-and-stress\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationships and Stress"},"content":{"rendered":"
It was recently said by someone\u2013 because of being so busy, they \u00a0did not have the energy to sustain the relationship.<\/div>\n
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The question posed was\u2013Did they \u201cwant\u201d to continue to see the person. \u00a0It was about the desire not the ability.<\/div>\n
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After\u00a0a great deal of thought on the word, sustain \u2013 it seemed to me, the word should have been maintain as she was inquiring about \u00a0the desire not the ability. \u00a0This led me to the dictionary where I looked up the word \u201csustain\u201d and then \u201cmaintain\u201d and found it rather interesting.<\/div>\n
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According to the dictionary to Sustain is to\u2013.strengthen or support physically or mentally.<\/div>\n
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synonyms:<\/td>\ncomfort<\/a>,\u00a0help<\/a>,\u00a0assist<\/a>,\u00a0encourage<\/a>,\u00a0succor<\/a>,\u00a0support<\/a>,\u00a0give strength to,buoy up,\u00a0carry<\/a>,\u00a0cheer up,\u00a0hearten<\/a><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n
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for example-you sustain a charity through your donations that may fail otherwise\u2013<\/div>\n
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Whereas to Maintain is to\u20131<\/strong>.\u00a0to cause or enable (a condition or state of affairs) to continue.<\/div>\n
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synonyms:<\/td>\npreserve<\/a>,\u00a0conserve<\/a>,\u00a0keep<\/a>,\u00a0retain<\/a>,\u00a0keep going,\u00a0keep alive,\u00a0keep up,prolong<\/a>,\u00a0perpetuate<\/a><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n
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for example-you oil your wood furniture to maintain it<\/div>\n
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It also made me start to think about sustaining and maintaining a relationship when it is under stress or is at a stale mate because of various factors. Or when it seems, there just isn\u2019t time or energy.<\/div>\n
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Many times we find we have no interest or thought \u00a0for something at the moment, but it does not dampen our desire to continue it or to return to it. \u00a0We just do not have the energy to give to it at the moment \u00a0Perhaps it is taking care of children, parents or just good old work \u00a0overload.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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This is especially true in relationships. One partner becomes so involved in work for example that he cannot give to the relationship and the other partner feels as if things are ending, that they are being shut out.<\/div>\n
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This is where it is important to know the difference between sustaining and maintaining \u00a0something we want to keep in our lives. We were not asking did you want the relationship to end, we were asking about did you desire to have it continue.<\/div>\n
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And with a little communication\u00a0ie\u00a0maintenance, many relationships can make it through the hard times.<\/div>\n
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Simple words go along way in letting a partner know this is a temporary situation. \u00a0That they just can\u2019t focus at the moment but want it to be there in the future.<\/div>\n
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\u00a0First let them know-when it is back to normal, you will spend some time together. \u00a0 Let them know, you want to maintain this but for right now you have no energy to sustain it but that it is temporary. \u00a0 Tell them , I miss you\/us. \u00a0And above all let them know you want them in your life and that you want it to continue and you appreciate their patience.<\/div>\n
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A few words here and there can Maintain a person for along time until you can put forth the energy again.<\/div>\n
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With a bit of thought, a strong relationship will not collapse from a lack of sustaining as long as you remember to do the maintaining until you can get to it again.<\/div>\n
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Love isn\u2019t when \u00a0there is no stress nor problems in the relationship<\/div>\n
Love is when the stress ends<\/div>\n
Love is still there.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It was recently said by someone\u2013 because of being so busy, they \u00a0did not have the energy to sustain the relationship. The question posed was\u2013Did they \u201cwant\u201d to continue to see the person. \u00a0It was about the desire not the ability. After\u00a0a great deal of thought on the word, sustain \u2013 it seemed to me, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":331,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4,13,7,17,55,37,30,10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-314","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-astrology","category-empowerment","category-love-relationships","category-mind-body-spirit","category-psychics","category-religion","category-singles","category-soul-mates","category-sprituality"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t