I am sure that we have all at one time or another in our lives have come across people who have no regard for anyone but themselves but in appearance seem to be the most kind, loving and giving person on the planet. If you do come across these people you can bet that they will treat you with the utmost respect, seem to like any interest you do, always seem to text or phone you constantly to make you feel special or shower you with gifts.\u00a0They make you feel that you have finally found the one.\u00a0This is what is known has love bombing.
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\nThree months down the track all seems to be going well, except you start noticing some things that make you think twice.\u00a0Things that had happened during the love bombing but because there was always so much going on you ignored it.\u00a0The little subtle things like how he\/she seemed to make out that everyone else was always at fault.\u00a0Eg: The reason why the last relationship broke up because she became a Psycho (their words).\u00a0Not only do you pick up on those subtle things, but the arguments start and they start to show their true colours.\u00a0Not only are they verbally abusing you, but suddenly they have started to financially abuse and eventually you are backed into a corner with what seems to be no way out.\u00a0You feel isolated with no one to turn to.\u00a0This was their plan all along, to have you dependent on them.\u00a0They were controlling you, you were just a thing, a possession to be kept around because you served a purpose to them.<\/p>\n
The moment you have had enough and start to take you power back, this is when they really start to ramp up the abuse. Suddenly they don\u2019t hide how they are any more and are constantly attacking you from all angles, even enlisting other people who will believe everything they say about you. These people are called enablers or Flying Monkeys, because they become the ones who will start to do things to you. Not the abuser. This makes the abuser look good in other people\u2019s eyes and this makes you look bad.\u00a0 Therefore, everything that happened is your fault and you find no matter how hard you try to explain the situation no one understands this and you are left feeling anxious and bewildered again, and the more you try to defend yourself the more you seem to be sinking deeper and deeper into a black hole.\u00a0 You have not one person but two or more people coming at you from all angles.\u00a0 Even though the enabler or Flying Monkey does realise that what is happening is wrong, in deep recess of his brain they are also enjoying watching the drama unfold and watching you being destroyed. This in the aim of the Narcissist, to destroy at any cost.<\/p>\n
How do you heal from a situation like this, how do move past the bombarding of abuse coming at you from all angles?\u00a0 Well the best way is cut all contact with these people.\u00a0 Easier said than done you say, no matter what I try they are always there.\u00a0 This is even harder if you have children with these people.\u00a0 It\u2019s like an obsession with them, the feel that you need to be punished because of what you did to them.\u00a0 In a nutshell you left them.\u00a0 This is enough for the abuser or Narcissist to go into full on mode. You have suddenly become enemy no one.\u00a0 They will try to bombard you with anything, made up court cases, stalking, cyber bullying not just by them but also by their Flying Monkeys. <\/p>\n